I was having a chat with my girl friend yesterday about marriage. She said that 1st 5 years of your marriage are the hardest. When you have kids, a house and a full time job.I guess more responsibilities. I guess when you get married and have 3 kids sometimes you don’t have any time for each other. You have a routine everyday that you try not to break. At night instead of asking each other how was your day, you rather talk to the IPAD.A lot of things change when you get married. No more surprises, no more kisses on the forehead before going to bed, no more ” good night honey”, no more ” how was your day”, no more dates and no more flowers. Sometimes when you ask them questions , it leads to arguments. It makes you reminisce of the days when you were just dating.
I was cleaning my old laptop to give it to my mom. I went through some old pictures and videos of my kids. I end up watching this particular video of my oldest son. I think I probably watched it 5 times. I think he was only 6 years old on this video. He was just so giggly, happy and having fun with me. It kind of gave me a teary eye. He is now 10 years old. Our relationship now is not the same as before. I got busy with my 2nd son and I didn’t have enough time to spend with him. Now we have another new born baby and it made it more difficult to spend time with my oldest. I miss chatting with him, teasing him, laughing with him so hard that I would start crying, shopping, scratching his back so he can fall asleep and chatting with him. I feel like he put a wall between us because I haven’t been there for him lately. I see him and talk to him every day but I miss him. How do you divide your time with 3 kids? How do you make sure that you are being fair with all three kids?
I got a call from the vice principal and I was told that my son hit someone at school. The first thing I asked is “WHY would he do that?” The reply I got is because he just wants to.” I was shocked of the reason he gave me and I even repeated what he said. I keep thinking there should be a reason why he did this. Because no one in their right mind would just smack someone out of nowhere. The vice principal informed me that he will be put it in school suspension. I told him that I will be coming in to have talk to him in person.I got home and talked to my son and asked him about the incident. He started crying while he was trying to tell me what happened. This is the story he told me. They were standing in line waiting for their turn to get their pictures taken. This boy#1 tripped on the wires that are on the floor and so camera equipment stopped working. My son made a sarcastic comment” geez thanks, idiot” Right after he said that boy#2 went to the parent educator to tell on him. Boy#2 came back where they were standing. While waiting for the parent educator to come, boy#1 and boy#2 started pointing at my son and stared saying “HE DID IT! HE DID IT! HE DID IT!” My son asked them to stop and they wouldn’t stop and it was aggravating him and making him more upset. When my son finally got too upset, that’s when he hit the kid in the face (like a smack). The vice principal told me that my son didn’t tell him that the 2 kids were taunting him. I told him that he probably didn’t want to tell you because you already told him he is going to be suspended. I asked him if the 2 kids will be in trouble too for taunting my kid, he said no because verbal and physical in the eyes of the law and society is 2 different things.I just couldn’t agree to what he said. Do you consider what the kids did is taunting? Do you think that those 2 kids should be in trouble too for taunting my son?
I’m a strong person but every now and then I also need someone to take my hand and say everything will be alright.